What do parents who rise and achieve their DCF goals do? They hold on to their vision for the future and are unwavering in their motivation. Amid their parenting journey, these dedicated individuals learn not only how to pivot effectively but also when to make crucial changes and, perhaps most importantly, when to gracefully let go of perceived failures. All in pursuit of ultimately achieving success in their role as parents. A key part of this journey involves understanding their parents rights against DCF and being prepared to fight against DCF when necessary. Habits of these successful parents are worth emulating.
1. Many successful parents have told me they turn being underestimated by DCF, family and friends into a strength. This is the classic turning of a “negative” into a “positive”.
Some parents involved with DCF are belittled and underestimated by the department. Parents tell me that their “worker does not respect me. Often, when family members and close friends become aware of DCF (Department of Children and Families) involvement, they frequently react in a similar manner. The Danny Downers, and the Negative Nancy’s everyone has in their life have countless stories about how their struggles have no end in sight.
Don’t listen to them! For Danny and Nancy to change they would have to be born over again. Their experience does not have to be yours. March to your own music. If you have no music, then make your own. When parents turn a negative into a positive they succeed every time. Be confident in your abilities in the face of those who doubt you! Stand tall in your purpose and get your goals done.
2. Successful parents choose progress over perfection.
Perfect can stall progress and movement in major ways. Take action quickly, and let go of idealizations. Perfection does not exist, but progress most surely does.
3. Successful parents say that they ask to be recognized for their accomplishments by DCF, family and friends.
Studies have documented that parents who lack confidence are held back from success without compliments. Be bold and confident! Successful parents make their accomplishments known and ask to be recognized for those accomplishments by DCF in writing. Do NOT wait for DCF to notice your accomplishments. Instead, put it in writing.
4. Parents can take action even when outcomes are unknown.
Instead of waiting to feel 100% confident in your decision or the intended outcome, successful parents take action. Trying and failing allows parents to learn what works and what does not. Eliminate what is not working and double down on what is working! Successful parents know that to take action despite fear and uncertainty is how they will get ahead.
5. Parents can join support groups that help motivate each other.
Many a parent have told me they are not a “joiner of groups”. But when they join, they find out that other parents can inspire them. One client stayed in a group long after she had completed what the group asked of her, as it gave her great sense of leadership. She also loved helping her fellow peers. There is enough room in the world for everyone to thrive and be successful by helping each other. We need not pit parents against each other. Successful parents motivate and encourage each other to be their “personal best”. Jealousy and negativity only distract you from your goal, in addition to the negative “karma” it brings.
6. Successful parents mentor other parents.
Mentoring others keeps you closer to the ground and to reality. As you go up the ladder of success, things might change for you in terms of how DCF sees you.
7. Parents master the art of reading body language.
Parents are born to nurture and care for their children, and as a result, they possess incredible powers of reading implied meaning in their child’s actions and words. Furthermore, parents have the ability to deeply comprehend their child’s needs and discern subtle changes in their behavior. These extraordinary parental superpowers have consistently enabled countless parents to successfully navigate the challenges of raising children to great heights of achievement and happiness.
Therefore, it’s absolutely crucial to tap into your innate superpower as a parent, as it holds the key to effective parenting. Furthermore, it’s worth noting that this superpower is always present within you. Nevertheless, at times, you may need to delve deep within yourself to access it. So, commence your journey towards unlocking this remarkable ability today, and you will undoubtedly observe the profound and positive difference it makes in your parenting journey. In conclusion, harnessing this innate superpower can be a transformative experience for both you and your child, enriching your relationship and fostering a nurturing environment.
More parents are asking to learn from each other to be successful. One cannot find a single set of rules or strategies, much like how one cannot find a universal fit in footwear. Parents involved with DCF are sharing success and how they got there with others which is empowering for all.
9. Successful parents are sharing their personal stories
You never truly know the extent of wisdom you can glean from a simple conversation. Moreover, when parents generously share their personal experiences and stories, they not only provide valuable guidance but also illuminate the paths one should or should not tread. Consequently, the significance of the insights you can acquire from participating in various groups and activities designed to enhance your parenting skills cannot be overstated. In essence, this exchange of knowledge and support is a ‘win-win’ scenario for all involved.
10. Successful parents are fearless and confident in themselves
Successful parents get out of the norm of being involved with DCF. Situations like these are different, but that does not mean it must be difficult. Trust your gut. You have a PhD in your child, and you know how to be a better parent. If you’re wondering about how long can DCF keep a case open or what are my rights during a DCF investigation, it’s crucial to stay informed and prepared. Now go do what you know is right. Good luck!
Kevin Seaver is an experienced, trusted lawyer who successfully represents clients against DCF from Boston, Massachusetts. Call Kevin at (617) 263-2633 or request a Consultation online!
DISCLAIMER
You find yourself in this situation, it’s advisable to seek legal representation from a qualified attorney, like those at the Law Office of Kevin Seaver, who can advocate for your rights and guide you through the complex process of a DCF investigation.
Remember that the ultimate goal of DCF is to ensure the safety and well-being of children while supporting families in crisis.
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Kevin Patrick Seaver is a Massachusetts DCF Defense Lawyer who represents parents against false child abuse allegations.
Massachusetts DCF Defense Lawyer Kevin Seaver has been successfully fighting false child abuse allegations since 1991.
We have talked to other attorneys and one was able to write us a letter explaining case law and how our situation didn’t meet the statute, but in the end DCF polices themselves and who would ever admit when they’re wrong?
Anyway, my wife had an incident where a child fell off the couch. DCF was called and found her to be an inadequate supervisor. Because of this she lost her teaching job and we have been fighting with no hope in sight.
Do you have any advice for us? Thanks for the consideration